5 Stages of Grieving-min

Episode 029 – 5 Stages of Grief

Grieving is a normal part of life. It’s actually not only about losing someone we love, it’s also about losing anything in life including our jobs, our hopes, our dreams, and our aspirations. Let’s talk about the 5 Stages of Grieving based on Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ approach, what these stages mean, and how it affects us as individuals.

Intro About Grieving

Elisabeth Kubler Ross (1926 – 2004) was a Swiss born psychiatrist. She was the oldest of triplet sisters and dedicated her career to exploring and helping clients develop self care and innate health.

Grief counseling is not just for someone who braves death of a loved one but for people who lost jobs, hopes, and dreams. Grief is a state where a person is faced with his own vulnerability.

Five Stages

Elisabeth Kubler Ross (1926-2004) is a Swiss-American psychiatrist who had a great heart and  showed amazing compassion to people. She developed the 5 Stages to Grief model in a very compassionate and sensitive way. Her book, On Death and Dying, was published in 1969. With David Kessler as co-author, Elisabeth wrote, On Grief and Grieving

The 5 Stages to Grief

  1. Denial: When a person still cannot believe or comprehend the fact of the lo
  2. Anger: Anger can be from regret and abandonment and is a natural feeling that we have when we are frustrated and upset about the loss.
  3. Bargaining: Bargaining comes with “if only” and “what if” thoughts. Often people will think or say, ‘If only I would have demanded that the deceased be treated by a different doctor.
  4. Depression: Depression is NOT just about feeling sad, it’s the time when what happened sinks in to the person affected
  5. Acceptance: After working through the stages, there is a process of acceptance, it is by no means a one time step that occurs, but rather it is something that one works through.

These stages are not necessarily what people go through in order and it is very common for one to fluctuate between stages.

Moving Forward

It is important to recognize that help is always available at any time. Acceptance means there’s already an understanding and that they’re ready to move on in life.  All stages of grief apply to so many parts in life in which we experience loss or disappointment.

Grief Letter

The Grief Recovery Institute has a 5-step process of writing a letter

  1. Write timeline of happy moments and memories: Include happy memories, things never said, wished to be shared, happiness or sadness and hurt
  2. Write a letter of what you miss and your regrets: What I miss, hurt, guilt, never said out loud
  3. Write general thoughts in memories: General thoughts memories and feelings
  4. Say Goodbye: This often helps with closure.
  5. Share: Share with others when and only if you are ready

Very often, people remember losses with sad feelings and they forget how the life and experience was lived happily. Celebrate a person’s life or the happy experiences you’ve had. Don’t forget to reach out if you need help.  Grief is part of every person’s life.  Remember that you don’t have to be alone in your grief, help is always available.  Understand that every person goes through grief in a different way and stage.

Episode Notes

Grieving is a normal part of life. It’s actually not just about losing someone we love, it’s also about losing our jobs, our hopes, our dreams, and our aspirations. Today, Joseph educates us with the 5 Stages of Grieving based on Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ approach, what these stages mean, and how it affects us as individuals.

Time Stamped Show Notes:
● 00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast
● 00:23 – Today’s episode: 5 Stages of Grieving
● 00:28 – Joseph will expound upon Elisabeth Kubler Ross’ 5 Stages of Grief and approach
● 00:43 – Grief counselling is not just for someone who beraves death of a loved one but for people who lost jobs, hopes, and dreams
● 01:14 – Grief is a state where a person is faced with his own vulnerability
● 01:56 – Elisabeth Kubler Ross (1926-2004) is a Swiss-American psychiatrist who has a great heart and an amazing compassion to people
● 02:29 – She developed the 5 Stages to Grief model in a very compassionate and sensitive way
● 02:42 – Her book, On Death and Dying, was published in 1969
● 03:10 – With David Kessler as co-author, Elisabeth wrote, On Grief and Grieving
● 03:26 – The 5 Stages to Grief
● 03:39 – These stages are not necessarily what people go through in order
● 04:33 – Denial is when a person still cannot believe or comprehend the fact of the loss
● 05:34 – Anger can be from regret and abandonment
● 06:09 – Bargaining comes with “if only” and “what if” thoughts
● 06:50 – Depression is NOT just about feeling sad, it’s the time when what happened sinks in to the person affected
● 07:48 – “Help is always available at any time”
● 07:59 – Acceptance means there’s already an understanding and that they’re ready to move on in life
● 08:52 – All stages of grief apply to so many parts in life
● 09:02 – The Grief Recovery Institute has a 5-step process of writing a letter
o Write a timeline of happy moments and memories
o Write a letter of what you miss and your regrets
o Write general thoughts in memories
o Say Goodbye
o Share with others when you’re ready
● 10:35 – Very often, people remember losses with sad feelings and they forget how the life and experience was lived happily
● 11:58 – Celebrate a person’s life or the happy experiences you’ve had
● 12:30 – Don’t forget to reach out if you need help
● 12:53 – Please leave us a comment on Mind Your Mind and a review on iTunes

 

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