Episode 030 – 6 Family Dynamics of Murray Bowen

Let’s talk about Dr. Murray Bowen’s 6 Family Dynamics. Families, just like individuals, are different in their own ways. Conflicts are not a rare occurrence with parents, spouses, siblings or children. Recognizing these family dynamics and what affects families both internally and externally will help us get a better grasp understanding them better. The family system fuels cooperation and discord. Understanding the interplay is the goal of the therapy process because that is the way to lead to harmonious understanding and coexistence.

Dr. Murray Bowen’s family systems have a lot of insights that can be very helpful. Dr. Bowen (1913 – 1990) was a very famous American psychiatrist during WWII. He was a trailblazer who changed a lot of things in the norm by stepping out of the box in his efforts to really help families.

Dr. Bowen’s 6 Family Dynamics

  1. Triangulation – the smallest amount of conflict starts here.  When a person brings in a third party (maybe children) to avoid issue or to turn attention to something else, this causes a pressure for another family member to take sides.
  2. Differentiation of the self – The main goal of therapy and life is to be autonomous and mature.
  3. Emotional cut-off – avoiding topics and closeness to people who can’t provide it to you.
  4. Family projection process – when emotional problems of a parent is transferred to a child
  5. Sibling positions – how birth order impacts personality and development
  6. Societal emotional process – external societal influences that create progressive or regressive behaviors.

Once you start recognizing the patterns and dynamics of what’s going on, it would give you the chance to better understand your family members. If you need help or coaching, reach out to me at Mind Your Mind “Remember, you can only change yourself”

Episode Notes

Summary:
In this episode, Joseph lists down Dr. Murray Bowen’s 6 Family Dynamics. Families, just like individuals, are different in their own ways. Conflicts are not a rare occurrence with parents, spouses, siblings or children. Recognizing these family dynamics and what affects families both internally and externally will help us get a better grasp understanding them better.
Time Stamped Show Notes:
● 00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast
● 00:22 – Today’s episode: 6 Family Dynamics of Dr. Murray Bowen
● 00:40 – Dr. Murray Bowen’s family systems have a lot of insights that can be very helpful
● 01:15 – Dr. Bowen (1913 – 1990) was a very famous American psychiatrist during WWII
● 01:44 – He was a trailblazer who changed a lot of things in the norm
● 02:03 – Dr. Bowen’s 6 Family Dynamics
o 02:19 – Triangulation – the smallest amount of conflict starts here
▪ When a person brings in a third party (maybe children) to avoid issue or to turn attention to
o 04:22 – Differentiation of the self – main goals of therapy and life is to be autonomous and mature
o 05:27 – Emotional cut-off – avoiding topics and closeness to people who can’t provide it to you
o 06:02 – Family projection process – when emotional problems of a parent is transferred to a child
o 07:17 – Sibling positions – how birth order impacts personality and development
o 08:08 – Societal emotional process – external societal influences that create progressive or regressive behaviors
● 09:00 – Once you start recognizing the patterns and dynamics of what’s going on, it would give you the chance to better understand your family members
● 09:13 – If you need help or coaching, reach out to Joseph at Mind Your Mind
● 09:27 – “Remember, you can only change yourself”
● 09:48 – Please leave us a comment on Mind Your Mind and a review on iTunes

3 Key Points:

  1. Understanding your family dynamics can often help you live a harmonious family life.
  2. Society is a huge impact in influencing your family which creates either progressive or regressive behaviors.
  3. You can’t change the way people are but you can change yourself.

Resources Mentioned:
● Dr. Murray Bowen – An American psychiatrist who helped in the army during the WWII and created family theories that are still being taught today.

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