In this episode, Joseph talks about how YOU can get your loved ones to seek help. When someone dear to us is struggling with emotional or mental issues, the family or close friends can often be the main source of support. However, being the sole support system can sometimes be very difficult—especially if the one supporting is not well-equipped or does not have their own support systems in place. Tune-in as Joseph describes 5 ways to approach a loved one that is struggling with mental illness and how you can encourage them to get the help that they need.

Time Stamped Show Notes:

  • 00:01 – Introduction to Mind Your Mind Podcast
  • 00:23 – Today’s episode is about the ways you can get your loved one to seek help
  • 00:35 – Dealing with a loved one who needs help can be exhausting
  • 00:58 – Today’s quote: “Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.” – Christopher Germer
  • 01:45 – Two books that are helpful: I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help! and You Need Help!
  • 02:40 – 5 Ways to Get Your Loved One to Seek Help
  • 02:43 – Do your part to improve the relationship
  • 03:02 – Know you can never take responsibility for their problems
  • 03:19 – You can’t change everything about you
  • 04:39 – Find what motivates them
  • 05:11 – Try to speak their language, find a common ground
  • 05:33 – Don’t criticize, blame, or apologize
  • 05:51 – Find areas that will help them understand that you care about them
  • 06:22 – For certain mental illnesses, people have no clue what is wrong with them
  • 07:07 – Find areas to agree on
  • 07:17 – LEAP: Listen, Empathize, Agree, and Partner
  • 08:06 – Get your own support
  • 08:15 – “You can’t force your loved ones to get help”
  • 09:01 – Joseph reminds people to help themselves first
  • 09:20 – Please leave us a comment on Mind Your Mind and a review on iTunes

3 Key Points:

  1.     We are only able to help someone if we can help ourselves first. Remember that you have your own needs to fulfill before trying to help others.
  2.     Trying to help a loved one can be frustrating and exhausting – make sure you have your own support system.
  3.     Don’t start from a point of blame and criticism, find common ground and aim to partner with them in their journey.

Resources Mentioned:

I Am Not Sick I Don’t Need Help! How to Help Someone with Mental Illness Accept Treatment using the LEAP method: Listen, empathize, agree and partner by Dr. Xaviar Amador.  

You Need Help! Step-by-step plan to convince a loved one to get counseling. Dr. Mark Komrad